Lately I've asked God in to show me exactly what is in my heart that doesn't belong. It was a loaded invitation but one well worth giving. So far the check list of things I need to fix:

1. My need to compete in a negative way (aka I want to be better than certain people) or take delight when someone I don't like fails.
Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

Proverbs 24:17-18 Do not gloat when your enemy falls;when they stumble, do not let your heart rejoice, or the Lord will see and disapproveand turn his wrath away from them.

2. I am a bossy, know-it-all (if you've ever met anyone in my family you know I get this honestly)
1 Corinthians 8:1b-3 We know that “We all possess knowledge.” But knowledge puffs up while love builds up. Those who think they know something do not yet know as they ought to know. But whoever loves God is known by God.

3. I allow bitterness and unforgiveness to rule my heart.
Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

4. I allow discontent to steal the joy of my present.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

It's funny that He gives pretty cut and dry commands for each area I struggle with. He's good like that. And, the great thing about God is that He only gives us things to change that will help make our lives more fulfilled. He does all things for our good and even the hard things are good things.

Prayers for help in this journey.